In the 21st century, it can be very challenging to meet someone. There are so many facets of life pulling us in every direction; one might say I don’t have the time.
My story is a little different. In my situation, it was never an issue of time rather an issue of location. You see, I could never meet the right type of guy at church, work, gym, the bowling alley etc.; the club scene was out of the question. It wasn’t that the men were unattractive; it was deeper than that. I desired a man who enjoyed the finer things in life; someone who loved to travel, well educated, cultured, and loved to have fun, and most importantly, a Christian.
Meeting someone with all of those qualities I looked for seemed impossible. Therefore, I decided to try alternatives that would provide me with more options, thus, online dating became my next best thing.
There was no better way for me to meet new people than in the comfort of my home. This was different and I liked it. I didn’t have to get all dress up to meet someone. I could find a comfortable spot in my pjs, order some pizza and meet new people all over the country. This would be great or so I thought. However, online dating like regular dating has its’ own set of rules. So here are a few rules for meeting new people online. Make sure to follow these guidelines at all times when meeting new people online.
Some pitfalls to avoid if you are considering online dating
According to an online dating site, blackpeoplemeet.com, here are some tips to consider when dating via online.
DON'T ever send money to someone you meet online, especially by wire transfer.
Don't give out your credit card number or bank info.
Don't share your personal info, such as SSN, address, phone number, etc.
Watch for these red flags if someone...
Quickly asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service.
Vanishes mysteriously from the site, and then reappears under a different name.
Talks about "destiny" or "fate" or claims to be recently widowed.
He/she asks for your address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.
They make an inordinate amount of grammar and/or spelling errors.
So, have you ever tried online dating? If so, how was it?
You many not know me, but I know everything about you (Psalm 139:1). I know when you sit down and when you rise up (Psalm 139:2), I am familiar with all your ways (Psalm 139:3). Even the very hairs of your head are numbered (Mathew 10:29-31) for you are made in my image (Genesis 1:27). In me you live and move and have your being (Acts 17:28). For you are my offspring (Acts 17:28). I knew you even before you were conceived (Jeremiah 1:4-5). I chose you when I planned creation (Ephesians 1:11-12). You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book (Psalms 139-15-16). I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live (Acts 12:26). You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). I knit you together in your mother's womb (Psalm 139:13) and brought you forth on the day you were born (Psalms 21:6).
I have been misrepresented by those who don't know me (John 8:41-44). I am not distant an angry, but am the complete expression of love (1 John 4:16). And it is my desire to lavish my love on you, simply because you are my child and I am your father (1 John 3:1). I offer you more than your earthly father ever could because I am the perfect Father (Mathew 5:48). Every good gift that you receive comes from my hands (James 1:17) for I am your provider and meets all your needs (Mathew 6:31-33).
My plans for your future have always been filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11) because I love you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). My thoughts towards you are countless as the sands on the seashore (Psalms 139:17-18) and I rejoice over you with singing (Zephaniah 3:17). I would never stop doing good to you (Jeremiah 32:40) for you are my treasured possession (Exodus 19:5). I desire to establish you with all my heart and soul (Jeremiah 32:41) and I want to show great and marvelous things (Jeremiah 33:3).
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me (Deuteronomy 4:29). Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart (Psalms 37:4) for it is I who give you those desires (Philippians 2:13). I am able to do more for you than you can possible imagine (Ephesians 1:20) for I am your greatest encourager (Thessalonian 2:16-17). I am also the Father who comfort you in all your troubles (2 Corinthians 1:3-40). When you are broken-hearted, I am close to you (Psalms 34:18). As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart (Isaiah 40:11). One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes and I will take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth (Revelations 21:3-4).
I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus (John 17:23). For in Jesus my love for you is revealed (John 17-26). He is the extra representation of my being (Hebrew 1:3). He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you (Romans 8:31) and to tell you that I am not counting your sins (2 Corinthians 5:18-19.) His death was the ultimate demonstration of my love for you (Romans 8:31-32). If you receive the gift of my son, Jesus, you receive me (1 John 2:23) and nothing will ever separate you from my love again (Romans 8:38-39). Come home and I will through the biggest party heaven has ever seen (Luke 15:7). I have always been Father, and I will always be Father (Ephesians 3:14-15). My question is...will you be my child (John 1:12-13)? I am waiting for you (Luke 15:11-32).
Love, your Daddy
[from an American Tract Society tract, "Father's Love letter"]
Around this time of year, Americans get into the spirit of giving. The good book says to not neglect doing good and sharing because this is what pleases God. So, take a moment and think about ways you can give to others. In return, your act of kindness makes a world of difference to those you affect around you.